HOW TO RUIN A RELATIONSHIP

Due to so many circumstances that I've observed, experienced,
and talked to people about, I've just got to talk about the:

#1 Reason people FALL OUT OF LOVE.

Here's a fact, we all have, in varying degrees, a NEED to "Love"
and/or to "Be Loved".

It's been a big part of my life to understand love, because I've
messed so many relationships up not understanding it.

Lets first expose a MYTH about LOVE.

There is a common belief that when you meet that "someone"
 that you will have this amazing feeling right off the bat. We
are taught that as kids and through TV, so that's what we look
 for, is this wonderful feeling that makes us comfortable. But
the thing that is forgotten is that "actions" precede "feelings".

So many times have I shut someone out because I didn't "feel"
what I wanted with that person, regardless of considering their
 character traits, personality, and goals in life. Even if they
were exactly what I was wanting.

The truth is this, i've said it before, so here it is again:

"You do not simply "fall in love" with someone. 
True love is woven strong and seamless with the 
threads of selfless service. You care for others only 
as deep as you've invested your time and emotion
into them."

Want to fall in love with someone? Go serve them, do things
for them, spend time with them. Stop waiting for the "feeling".
Actions precede feelings. This principle is wonderfully brought
to life in the movie "Fireproof", where a couple on the edge of
divorce repair their relationship by performing acts of kindness
towards each other.

This is key because when things get hard and that person isn't
pleasant to always be around, then your "feelings" are going to
want to flee due to the lack of love you really have for them.

So if you are struggling with someone in a relationship now, go
do something for them, set down all arguments and hate aside
and focus on the positive in that person and then bring it out with
your service. Your love will increase and those feelings will blossom.