Most of you who know me are probably thinking,
"Cory! How could you support men being 'jerks' to women?"
Calm down, calm down. Let me explain why, just continue reading.
weekend with a group of girls. They all had ONE question:
"Cory, Why do girls go for the 'Jerks'?"
To best answer that question I want to expose a natural law
that I saw repeatedly when I studied profiles and self explanations.
One of the most common response people would say is this:
"My name is Rod and I like to party!"
"My name is Rod and I like to party!"
Ok ok, so maybe that is a quote from "Hot Rod", but it really
is what people say, they like to have fun. On dating sites
you'll read over and over, "My name is... and I like to have
fun" ... well duh, who doesn't?
Here is the law you need to understand, "you are attracted
to everything that you find fun." Sounds pretty simple right?
Right.
HOLD ON! Wait wait... a jerk doesn't sound that fun to be
with. Go ask the plethora of women who have been abused
in all ways possible. "zero" fun. And I will agree with them.
So how does this tie into the first question?
"Jerks" naturally do things that "Good guys" don't catch
onto that makes for a fun time. No it's not sex, drugs, getting
drunk, or manipulation. I'm going to share with you a few of
the things the jerks do RIGHT that land them the attention of
the "GOOD GIRLS".
First off lets get what they do wrong out of the way. Relationships
with jerks end mostly because they are unreliable, immature, lazy,
selfish, insensitive, etc... So by no means do I support anyone
being a jerk, but they are doing some things right when it comes
to being attractive. Here are a few:
Number 1, The way they talk. Given the right situation, when a
girl says "I don't feel good...", a jerks sarcastic response of "Ya,
you don't look good either." is perfect to lighten the mood, rather
than a "good guys" response of, "I'm sorry sweetie, what can I
do to help?" therefore the unexpected answer from the "jerk" is
more fun, aka more attractive.
Number 2, The way they touch. The #1 reason why guys get put
more fun, aka more attractive.
Number 2, The way they touch. The #1 reason why guys get put
into the "friend zone" is because they aren't flirty at all with
touching. Jerks touch all the time, a rub on the back, a poke,
etc... And generally speaking more touch is more fun, aka jerks
win again with attraction.
Attraction is merely value. If you are more valuable aka more
"fun", you are more attractive. The reason 'jerks' have a fast turn
over of girlfriends is because they don't provide a long term "value"
which is what all the "good guys" are so good at. But their hold
up is they don't provide the short term value to land the hook.
FOR EXAMPLE: Referring to "number 1", the Jerk gets the
short term value out with his sarcastic remarks, but he looses the
long term value by not actually helping her out or having a reliable
character to take care of her. Vise versa, the Good guy looses out
by not being "fun", but is exactly what she "needs" in the long run.
What I support, and teach in my classes, is how to be the best of both worlds.
There is a TON of value in what I just shared with you here. Take
it and apply it, test it out for yourself and comment about your
experiences bellow!
